You say yes to the third favour this week, although you already wanted to say no to the first one. Personal sovereignty means taking your own needs and boundaries seriously again. And leaving other people their share of the responsibility.
Adapting often provides security early on. Perhaps in your family you were the sensible one, the mediator, or the child who had to be grown up too soon. Whoever is useful and uncomplicated gets recognition. Later it runs automatically.
You organise, you mediate, you step in. You feel responsible for other people's moods, for their decisions and the consequences. From the outside that looks strong. Inside it becomes empty over time.
Compassion takes the other person seriously. Whoever rescues takes something away from them unasked, and often needs the helping to feel valuable. You are allowed to help. Voluntarily, and to a degree that does not eat you up.
A no does not automatically end a relationship. Often it is the first thing to show what is really possible in it. Conflicts become more open, expectations clearer, and closeness happens voluntarily.
Recognition feels good. It becomes difficult when every decision depends on it. Sovereignty also means being able to bear that not everyone agrees with you.
We take concrete situations and look at which old roles are hidden in them. I tell you what I see. Which boundary you set is your decision.
In the first conversation we look at what matters to you and whether I can help you with it.